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Let’s talk about death: The importance of discussing your plans

Death is a topic that many of us shy away from. Yet, the inevitability of our end is a universal truth – one that necessitates open discussions and proper planning.

As part of Hospice UK’s Dying Matters Awareness Week, that took place from 6 – 12 May, communities across the UK have been encouraged to break the silence and stigma surrounding death through candid conversations.

This year’s theme, “The Way We Talk About Dying Matters,” focused particularly on the language used when discussing death and dying.

Why talking about dying matters

Death and dying are not just medical or physical realities but deeply emotional and personal experiences.

Honest and timely conversations about these topics are crucial to ensuring your wishes are met, or if you need care towards the end, you have someone able to make decisions for you if you are not able to.

There is often a lack of confidence, prevalent taboos, and widespread confusion about who should initiate these discussions.

As a result, families may not fully understand what is happening or have a clear idea of a person’s wishes after their loved one has died.

Research shows that the language used by healthcare professionals can significantly impact end-of-life experiences.

Equally, as solicitors, we strive to deliver a compassionate approach to discussion about the end of an individual’s life, be that decades ahead or a sudden need for advice.

The role of legal firms

While Hospice UK’s campaign focused more on the role of healthcare professionals during the end-of-life process, legal firms also play a pivotal role in ensuring families achieve peace of mind.

Law firms are uniquely positioned to guide individuals in crafting comprehensive death plans, including the creation of Wills.

Creating a Will is more than just deciding how one’s assets will be distributed after death. It’s a crucial part of ensuring that one’s wishes are respected and that loved ones are provided for without legal complications.

Similarly, pre-planning one’s funeral can significantly relieve the emotional and financial burden on those left behind and be incorporated into your Will to eliminate any uncertainties.

This allows individuals to specify their wishes for their final farewell, ensuring that their preferences are honoured and celebrated.

How to start the conversation about death

While it is a tough subject that most of us avoid, here are some tips that may help you:

Start early: The best time to talk about end-of-life plans is when you are healthy and, in a calm, stress-free environment.
Educate yourself: Understand the options available for estate planning and funerals. Knowledge is empowering and can make these conversations less daunting.
Use clear, compassionate language: The words we choose can help make these discussions more accessible and less frightening.
Consult professionals: Engage with legal advisors to understand the implications of various options and to help articulate your wishes effectively.
Make it an ongoing discussion: End-of-life planning is not a one-time conversation. As life changes, so too might your wishes and needs.

Get talking to us

Dying Matters Awareness Week was a vital reminder of the importance of examining our final plans openly and with dignity.

We are equipped with expertise in Wills and estate planning and are often essential facilitators in these conversations within families.

By providing clear, compassionate guidance, we ensure that individuals feel confident and comforted in knowing their wishes will be fulfilled, and their loved ones supported, long after they are gone.

To find out more about our compassionate Wills and Estate Planning services, please contact us.

Rachel Blackburn

Head of Wills, Probate and Older Client Services

I joined Mander Hadley’s Wills, Probate and Older Client Services Team in 2018.I specialise in the preparation of Wills, Probate and estate administration, trusts and trust administration and Lasting Powers of Attorney. I also have experience of care fee planning and appeals of Continuing Health Care decisions.

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